How does it feel like to marry your God’s best?

“Someone asked me a few months ago, how does it feel like that soon I’ll be marrying the man of my dreams. I said, I don’t know. The man of my dreams is James Reid, and the last time I checked, I’m still engaged with Johnrick. No, I am not marrying the man of my dreams, but I am marrying my God’s best.” – excerpts from my vows exactly a year ago.

I can’t believe it has really been a year. I can still see myself wearing my wedding dress; families and friends all celebrating with us; Johnrick waiting for me at the end of the aisle while I nervously go down the stairs, praying I won’t trip; everyone dancing and having a good time. It still feels like it was just yesterday. Where did time go?

So one year after, how does it feel like to be married with your God’s best?

It’s life-changing in all aspects.

You sleep and wake up every night and day with the same face beside you knowing it’ll be like that for, uh, forever. Not that it’s a bad thing, don’t get me wrong. It’s just different than what you’re used to; Other than your patients, there’s one more person now that you have to take care of when they’re sick; You get nagged all the time when you forget to bring things; You’ll find out that petty fights are real things even after you got married; All the things they said on their wedding vows aren’t exactly how you should expect it; More family gatherings that you have to go to and people that you need to meet; You’ll almost never go on trips alone.

It sure is a very challenging phase, especially on the first year of marriage- too many adjustments. But what do I love about it?

You sleep and wake up every night and day with someone to share your goals and dreams; You no longer have to be the only one taking care of others, now there’s someone who takes care of you when you’re sick too, cause unfortunately, nurses are not invincible; When you forget something, they’re always there to save the day; The most fights you get into are arguments on who does your puppy listen to more; Their vows aren’t exactly true cause they’ll give you better than that; Your heart will overflow from all the love of your new families and friends; All the places and experiences will be shared with someone you love, and that makes every trip even more special.

I know one year is just a small number, actually it’s just the start. I know there’s still a lot to come and many new challenges that we still have to go through and learn from. But knowing I have someone beside me to face all these, I am more than ready!

Happy anniversary insta hubby! Happy anniversary God’s best! Cheers to one year! And here’s to 5, 10, 50, 70 more years together!

From one bride to another…

It has been a little bit over seven months after our wedding BUT I can still tell you exactly what happened from the night before till the wedding party ended. It truly is one of the happiest moments of my life – our families were there, friends flew to the Philippines for the first time to be part of it, the Boracay sunset as our back drop during ceremony; what more can a bride ask for (maybe James Reid coming out? Kidding!)?

 

I personally think it was a successful event although there were minor details that I realized later on that I wish I have done differently or have realized sooner. Like how I wish we had pictures with the flower girls and the ring and sand bearers; my letter for Johnrick wasn’t given to him during exchange of gifts so he only got to read it after the wedding; I wish I didn’t freestyle the first few lines of my vow so I didn’t mess up while reciting it; or the fact that I actually rushed into reciting it because I’ve been crying and if I don’t hurry I will never finish. But despite these things that I would like to tweak, it has been a stress-free journey (okay, maybe a little stress every now and then), that I would love to go through it over and over again if it means going back to that special day.

Having said that, what’s my advice for future brides? I am at no means an expert when it comes to weddings but I have few things that I’d like to share to future brides-to-be which I think played  big roles in making our big day run smoothly.

 

#1 Choose your top 3

Three things that you will not compromise no matter what. My top three were my planner, photographer and the reception. They are the part of the wedding that I feel will help me not stress about it, will make the guests happy, and will give us something tangible to remember this big day. That’s why I searched for the best ( and within budget) and didn’t settle for less. Everything else in the wedding, you can always work out. Well, that’s just me, everyone else has their own priorities.

 

#2 Get a good planner!

I can’t stress enough how important and big of a role the planner has when it comes to destination weddings. Think about it, you are not personally there to talk to vendors and scout for the things that you want, so it is important to get someone that is really good at this and someone you can really trust. I remember my mom sending me horror stories of couples having destination wedding in the Philippines and sending monies to their planners only to find out on their actual wedding days that they got scammed and their planners, apparently, didn’t really plan anything. The moment I saw Amanda Tirol from BrideandBreakfast (a famous wedding site in the Philippines), I knew there and then that I wanted her to be my planner. She has a very good reputation with brides, has planned most of the weddings in Boracay and what’s more convincing than knowing she planned celebrity weddings like Jericho Rosales and Kim Jones’ wedding ( which is only my ultimate dream wedding!). She may cost a little bit too much than what I will pay for a wedding planner but I don’t regret a single dollar. Her team is worth EVERY. SINGLE. PENNY and more. First of all, I planned this wedding for more than 2 years – 27 months to be exact. And her team was with me throughout those 27 months – sending me lists of what needs to be done (real talk, I’ve never been married! How would I know what I need?), negotiating with vendors for me, scouting for things that I want, and letting me know what works and what doesn’t. I actually felt their real value more on the wedding day. Everything was well organized that all I had to worry was if it’s going to rain, that’s the only thing that they can’t do for me. I know I had so much time to plan that’s why it didn’t feel stressful but I attribute it mainly to my planning team, they made everything so fun and easy.

 

#3 Get a good photographer

Or videographer, if you’re into that kind of stuff. I am honestly not too much into videos because I think I look like a dork in it so I prefer stills more. Although, I will admit, Lula Films changed my perspective and made me love our wedding video because they were soooo good! Everyone was really impressed with the Same Day Edit and kept telling me how it made them cry. Anyway, you know how they say that you need to enjoy your wedding day because it will go by so fast? They weren’t lying. All those 2 years of planning, all done in what feels like few hours of socializing. So, I think it is very important to get someone who can document this day well enough. When all the fun is over, you want something to remind you of it. You would want to see your pictures/videos and just be taken back to that special day.  Even now I still look at our wedding photos everyday.

 

#4 Stick to your budget

Unless you’re someone who doesn’t really worry about monetary issues, stick to your budget no matter what. With all these beautiful ideas that you see on the internet (ahem, pinterest) it’s so easy to just want to get everything and lose track of your budget. We get vulnerable to the idea that “I will only get married once, so it’s okay to spend”. NO! Sure, you will only get married once, but what about after the wedding? What about starting your new life together? And most importantly, what about the honeymoon? Again, that’s just me. But seriously, why spend so much on your wedding day and eat cup noodles for the next days to come? If it’s out of budget, don’t force it or make people go out of their way so you can have it. I have a favorite wedding wisdom that says “Your marriage is more important than your wedding”. A beautiful wedding is every woman’s dream but remember that it’s more important to invest in your marriage.

 

#5 Prepare a Thank You speech

When you’re ecstatic and in the moment, you get overwhelmed and sometimes you can’t think clearly. One thing that I actually regret a lot was not delivering a well-thought speech. I was caught off-guard when I got handed the microphone for a Thank You speech (and I hate public speaking!). I was just sitting there trying to express what I really wanted to say but all that came out was nonsense talking and somewhere between the lines of “Thank you so much, I can’t really think right now, but thank you for coming”. Like, OMG! All these people that came all the way from far places and spent so much for airfare and hotels just to witness our wedding, and I can’t even thank them properly. I mean, yes I sent them Thank You cards but it could have been nicer to say it personally. I terribly failed on that. So make sure you prepare one although it wasn’t listed as part of the program, because they can always hand you the microphone then you’re on your own.

 

#6 Have fun!

This day is meant to celebrate two people who decided to be together. It’s not to show the world what a beautiful wedding you have, or how expensive and detailed your gown was, or how big the cake was. And it’s definitely not done for the gram! You don’t need to impress anyone. So don’t sweat the small stuff. If something goes wrong, it’s not the end of the world. You will still get married and you get to do it in front of your family, friends and God. And that’s all that matters. You want to remember this day as the happiest day of your life, not the day when you stopped talking to your best friend because she forgot to do something you asked her to.

 

 

These are just few of the most important ones that really worked for me. Every bride is different but I hope it somehow helped another bride in need. 
Congratulations to all the future brides for deciding on forever. 🙂

Love at first sight – it’s real!

I never believed in love at first sight until I met Luna. And I am not even being overdramatic when I say it’s true. 


My husband and I have been wanting to get a chow chow but we just didn’t know when since it’s so hard to find one in the area. I honestly just gave up on the idea because 1) sellers charge so much for them, 2) I can never find one that fits my standards. I wanted a cinnamon color, male pup, 3) sellers are always so far, most of them are in Texas, and I’m too chicken to do online transactions. So I told hubby that unless we either find one that’s not too expensive or the exact same puppy that we want, we’re not gonna get one.


But I don’t know what’s with hubby these past few weeks. He’s been going on about getting a pup, he would settle for a different breed even, just to get one. I instantly said no. There was even a time that I’d become evil and told him he can get whatever he wants but it’s not gonna get love from me. Lol. Meanie.

So yesterday, hubby told me he’s gonna get a chow chow from a seller close by. I didn’t like the idea. It’s a female brown chow and the guy won’t negotiate the price. I was mad. I wouldn’t talk to hubby even after he said he’s leaving to get the puppy. 

The whole time hubby was gone I kept thinking to myself I’m just gonna stay mad and not even pay attention to the puppy. So when he came home, I was in the garage doing household chores and I can’t be bothered. But when hubby brought Luna in the garage, I saw how cute and fluffy she is. I couldn’t help but pet her! Aaahhh! I gave in and smiled at her and carried her. I fell in love right there and then. 


It’s our second day with Luna and I’m loving every minute with her. She’s a friendly puppy that loves to cuddle even though I read chow chows aren’t usually like that. While I’m writing this, she’s playing with her cousin, Bambi, which is my sister’s 2-year old dog. I can’t promise my instagram wouldn’t be filled with Luna’s photos from now on. Lol.